The maid of honour is an American import that has caught on in big way here across the pond. Primarily the ‘lead bridesmaid’, an excellent maid of honour will make the run-up to the big day extra special for the bride, but a bad maid of honour can be an unmitigated disaster.
FOR THE BRIDE
Make the right choice
Appointing your maid of honour is probably going to be an easy decision, she will usually be a best friend or sister. It’s best to make this decision with your head as well as your heart. You will want someone you love to share this experience with you, but you will need a maid of honour who is level-headed, responsible and organised.
Define the role
Make sure your maid of honour knows what is expected of them right from the get-go. Every bride has her personal idea of what a maid of honour should do. As a general rule, they will arrange the hen do, help pick your wedding dress, attend all dress fittings, assist with wedding admin (such as addressing envelopes or making party favours), and act as the bride’s point -of-call person on the day itself.
Make them feel valued
Your maid of honour will be spending a lot of time, money and energy on your wedding preparation; don’t forget to give her a special shout-out on the big day. If your maid of honour has gone above and beyond the call of duty, you could use the quiet moments on the morning of your wedding to give her a personalised thank you gift.
FOR THE MAID OF HONOUR
Being asked to undertake the role of maid of honour is an enormous compliment. It’s also a significant responsibility. It will probably be time-consuming and stressful, so before you accept the role, make sure that you can be available for the duration of the pre-wedding period. Now is not the time to move abroad or take a gap year, your bride needs you!
Make the bride delegate
In the early days, every bride wants to plan the entire wedding by themselves, before realising what a massive undertaking it actually is and having a small nervous breakdown. Your job is to help the bride enjoy a stress-free wedding, and that starts with the prep. Make the bride delegate as much as possible, to you or others, and you will help keep the stress at bay.
Every good maid of honour has an emergency bridal kit on her at all times during the day of the wedding. A kit should include a needle and thread (for wedding dress mishaps), dental floss, aspirin, spare makeup, hair pins, tissues, and, of course, a hip flask. At least one of these items will end up saving the day.