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Etiquette For Children At A Wedding.

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Etiquette For Children At A Wedding.
Author : Wedding Photography Select
Article Date : 14 Apr 2015


Children and weddings. It's a nice idea in theory, but in practice, well, let's just say it's not for everyone. For every cute photo of little Molly dancing with the groom, there is a service-stalling tantrum or a meal-spoiling nappy change.

Children can bring joy to weddings, but they are also unpredictable little creatures that don't always do well during long ceremonies. That's why it's important to know your etiquette, brides, grooms and parents, pay attention:

If children are not invited

There are lots of reasons the bride and groom may decide not to make their wedding child-friendly. Maybe they are planning a sophisticated, grown-up affair or an X-rated rave-up after the ceremony. Or maybe the venue simply doesn't cater for children. Whatever the reason, it is important that their choice is respected.

Brides and grooms, when you send out your 'save the date' cards include a polite note at the bottom stating that your wedding and reception will not be suitable for children. This clarity will give your guests plenty of time to arrange for a babysitter or to decline your invitation. If a guest puts you on the spot and asks to bring their kids along, be firm but polite and if in doubt, blame the venue.

etiquette for children at a wedding



Guests, don't fight this. The bride and groom will have their reasons for making it an adult-only event, and you will only make things awkward if you insist on disregarding their request and bring your children along anyway. If your children's names do not specifically appear on your invite, don't assume that they are invited. Check with the bride and groom well ahead of time if there is any ambiguity.

If children are invited

Children can add so much to your wedding day, as flower girls and ring bearers, or as adorable little dancing partners during the reception. But don't expect them to be 'on form' for the entire day. To a small child, a wedding is a baffling and boring day out, interspersed with some fun bits (throwing the confetti, catching the bouquet). It is down to the bride, groom and the child's parents to make sure that all small guests are entertained and looked after from start to finish.

Brides and grooms, if you know that children will be at your wedding, plan ahead. Ask the caterers to prepare a child-friendly option on the menu, and speak to the venue about setting up a kids' area with toys, art supplies and maybe even a DVD station.

Guests, chat to your kids beforehand and let them know what they can expect from the wedding service. Make it more interesting for them by asking them questions throughout the day and playing little games with them. A few weeks before the wedding, call the venue and find out if they offer a babysitting service that you can use after the wedding breakfast. That way you can have the best of both worlds, a sweet day with your kids, plus an opportunity to let your hair down in the evening.